Stay Grounded: Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart
Is your life falling apart? Perhaps you're going through a breakup or divorce and you're feeling really disappointed and depressed, realizing that your life is an absolute mess.
Life is beautiful, but it's full of ups and downs, great joys and great losses. When life is hard, it's very easy to feel stuck, sad and angry at the same time. It's really difficult to keep yourself intact and stay positive when you're losing your love, house, job, or health. It's painful to realize that your marriage or life was a lie, but sometimes in order for everything to come together, things need to fall apart first.
Staying positive when your world is falling apart is no easy task. However, in the end, you will see that all the negative things that happened must have happened in order for you to be able to turn your life around.
So, if you're feeling that your life is out of your control, here are a few effective strategies to help you not to lose your sanity:
Let Go Of Complaining
Be grateful for what you have and let go of the need to complain. Complaining does not make the process of recovery any smoother and doesn't solve any problems. Rather, it can make the already bad situation worse.
Life is full of challenges and problems, and you can either choose to be negative and complain or remain positive in the face of tough situations. When you're faced with the urge to complain, take a time out and think about how complaining and negative thinking will affect your energy and mood, and then decide whether you want to move forward with it.
Take Personal Responsibility For Your Life
Only you are responsible for yourself, whether you like it or not. What you do with your life and what you have done already is up to you. You may not be able to control everything that happens to you, but you're responsible for your thoughts, actions, and feelings. Realize that your life is falling apart because something went off track and you failed to take responsibility for the things that you had direct control over, that is your reaction, attitude, and emotions. Accepting personal responsibility for your life and your happiness is actually a very liberating feeling.
Give Yourself Time Out
If you're going through a stressful situation, give yourself time afterward to calm down. Stop whatever you're doing and take some time out to breathe some fresh air. Put on the brakes on things until you get your thoughts back to a place of making wise decisions and choices. Try exercising or meditating before you go to bed each night and recount all the good things that happened through the day.
Never Make Decisions When You Are Emotional
When your life is falling apart, it is only normal to get angry or to feel sad and depressed. Never make major decisions when you are in the midst of experiencing such intense emotions. The decisions we make when we are in an emotional state of mind are often wrong and we end up deeply regretting them. Sort out your problems before creating more and focus on the solutions.
Forgive Yourself And Others
You need to accept the fact that people make mistakes and you must learn to both forgive yourself and others. None of us are perfect and we all have our weaknesses, so if you mess up, just take responsibility and move on. When someone else messes up, don't hold it against them - hanging on to anger, grudges, and resentment will significantly and negatively impact your life.
Keep Moving And Believe In Yourself
You will have to go through tough times in life, but without challenges and setbacks, how would you learn and grow? Choose to be happy, regardless of what's happening around you and keep in mind that difficult moments are the best time to start something new in your life. Believe in yourself and choose to learn from experiences. Choose to trust, choose to breathe deeply and move on. If you have a positive attitude and you believe that everything will work out, you'll be able to deal with the situation much better.